How you relate to yourself and others…
Starts with you.
The most important relationship is the one you have with yourself.
Most of us look outward to solve our relational pain - waiting for the other person to change, to understand, or to choose us. But the shift only happens when we turn the lens inwards. Relating well to others begins with a deep curiosity about ourselves - exploring our triggers, our shadows and cultivating a capacity for self-compassion.
HEY!
I’M TAMMY.
I’m a therapist who helps people do the brave work of looking in the mirror.
I work with individuals in online one-to-one therapy, who are tired of repeating the same cycles and are ready for a different result. Whether you are going through a break up, feeling stuck in a partnership, or simply want to change how you show up in the world - the work starts here.
My approach is rooted in Relational Self-awareness - a fancy way of saying we’re going to look in the mirror until we actually see who’s staring back.
I believe that how we relate to others is a direct reflection of how we relate to ourselves. By looking honestly at your most imperfect parts with compassion and gratitude, we begin to transform your relationships from the inside out.
How can I show up differently?
We spend so much time editing our partners, we forget to look at our own script. Real change isn’t about finding a better partner; it’s about becoming a more self-aware version of yourself.
From…
Asking others for the validation, care, or safety you haven’t yet granted yourself
Waiting for someone else to rewrite your story or apologise so you can finally move on
Choosing harmony by staying quiet, keeping your peace and abandoning your own truth
To…
Giving to yourself first, so your relationships are a choice rather than a desperate need
Owning your narrative and realising that you hold the pen to the next chapter
Choosing honesty as the only foundation for a connection that is actually real
